More Than Just A Birthday Candle

This Friday, I’ll be 33. If you’re like me, birthdays always bring a moment of reflection. I look back on tough decisions, life lessons, what I’ve gained and lost over the last year, and so on – and each time proves another hard learning year was had. This year was different. While I still learned so much, I finally seemed to learn lessons “not the hard way,” if that makes sense. I found myself ahead of things, rather than behind them. I felt alive, rather than forcing things into place. It was a year where I wasn’t coasting – and where I found consciousness.

Last December, I stumbled upon a wonderful human in the most serendipitous way. Unexpectedly becoming my yoga instructor, Jaz ended up becoming my very dear friend as well. As someone who still struggles to touch their toes, I’ve been very aware of how much my body needs to stretch. It wasn’t until this year, however, that I realized how inflexible my mind was.

Jaz and her business partner, Alicia, produce Yoga Evolution TV – a conscious live talk show followed by a yoga flow. I attend monthly to listen to fascinating people talk about different topics, such as meditation, astrology, and self-love. At one particular airing, John Tran (yogi and creator of YOUniverSOUL Fest) enlightened us on the power of manifesting. He explained how important it is for us to share our dreams with others – and how we can actually manifest our dreams into existence.

What is manifesting? Jaz explains it as “tapping into our ability to attract vibrational matches for what we desire or envision.” I like to call it “bringing the dreams from inside our souls out into the physical universe.” How do we do this? By writing our dreams down. By saying them out loud and sharing them with others. By truly believing they will happen. If that seems a little “out there” to you, check this out:

John told us a story about his birthday some years ago spent with family and friends. It was time to blow out the candles on his birthday cake and he had a thought: Why is it that we don’t tell anyone what our birthday wish is? After all, we only get one birthday wish a year – why do we choose to keep it to ourselves? Doesn’t it make much more sense to say it out loud so the people around us (and the universe) can hear it? So on that particular birthday, he chose to say his wish out loud to his family and friends and asked them to share one of their wishes in return.

I was intrigued. Earlier in the year, I started to write down my goals and dreams for the first time ever in my life. I found it strange at first – the things I wrote down actually started to happen! I thought back to this as John was sharing the story of his birthday. I thought to myself – if this has already happened on a small scale, and I didn’t really even know what I was doing, what could happen if I really started manifesting my dreams? If I truly believed in them so much that I could firmly declare to others what I wanted and what I saw for myself in the future? I didn’t know what would happen, but I was down to find out.

I started to declare what I envisioned for myself – I shared it with friends, family, clients, and just about anyone who would listen! The more I said it out loud, the more I would believe in it, and the more things would happen – why I had never said my dreams out loud before?

I took some time to figure out the answer, but it came down to this: Insecurity. Insecure that what I wanted wouldn’t come true. Insecure that people would laugh at me. Insecure that I wasn’t good enough. Insecure because I didn’t know how to actually get what I wanted.

Why was I so concerned about what other people would think of my dreams? After all, they belonged to me! And I had no idea what the future version of myself would look like – what battles I would overcome, what struggles would make me stronger, what people I would meet to lift me up – why was I so worried about the future version of me? Did I not trust myself?

These thoughts made me keep my dreams inside – where doubt, overthinking, and anxiety would eat them alive if left there. I had chosen not to share them (even to myself!) based on an imaginary feeling that my future self might potentially have.

I felt kind of silly once I broke it down to be that simple.

My mind was absolutely blown at how much doubt I had in myself and how it was revealed. That day I made a vow – no more doubt. No more fearing what other people would say. I would tell my dreams to anyone and everyone, and in the depths of my soul, I would believe them to be true. I would manifest them into a reality.

While having dinner last night in Austin, the table next to me was celebrating a birthday. The room filled with life as the group lit the birthday candles and sang to their friend. When he blew the candles out, his friends asked him to tell them his wish. He laughed and refused to tell them. I found myself exclaiming across the room, “No, tell them!” The table looked over and I laughed. “Tell them,” I said again. “Manifest your dream.” This started a fun conversation between strangers. One of their friends yelled out, “The Power of the Spoken Word!” Yes! There is power in speaking your dreams out loud. There is power in truly believing that you can do something. (P.S. Shout out to anyone from Salty Sow last night reading this after I shamelessly plugged this post.)

This Friday, I’ll be 33. I’m going to spend the evening with friends, and I definitely plan on eating some cake – but before I do, I’m going to make a wish and share it with everyone there. They don’t know it yet, but I am going to ask everyone to share one of their own dreams as well. That’s what I want for my birthday! I want all of my friends to realize that they have the power to get everything they want – and that they really believe that power lies inside of them.

What dream have you been keeping inside, unable to tell anyone?

What thoughts cross your mind that talk you out of your dreams?

Can you commit to telling one person your dream? If so, who will you tell?

If that is too much for you, will you commit to telling yourself your dream out loud or writing it down? You’ve got this!

“With one mouth, you can sing so many songs. With four strings, you can play four hundred tunes. So also, one mind can give rise to so many thoughts. Your destiny is based on your character. Character is based on actions. Actions are based on thoughts. Therefore, cultivate morality and sacred thoughts. None can escape the law of action, which is based on the nature of the mind.” (A quote sent to me by my friend Vinod, appropriately timed for today’s post!)