How To Turn An Idea Into A Reality

I was leaving my Lagree studio and heading to meet my business partner, Chichi, for our normal weekly Monday meeting dedicated to our start-up company, which provides networking and consulting services to fitness professionals. 

Instead of jumping into “meeting mode”, we decided to get pho for lunch. So I picked her up and off we went. Perhaps it was the mindset we were finally in – perhaps it was the synergistic energy that had been building. Or maybe, it was just knowing that a bowl full of carbs were on the way. But she hopped into my car and our ideas just began to soar.

2020 Vision & Goals in January

“You know what would be really cool? If we did a Vision & Goals Workshop for a big group of people.” That’s how it started. I can’t remember the exact flow, but it went something like this:

“We can pair it with a yoga flow.” “Ooh, we should do it around the beginning of the year so it can be a great start to 2020 for everyone.” “We should offer this to fitness junkies too!”

What started as an idea on the drive randomly to get pho for lunch on a Monday ended up turning into our next huge event two months later – 2020 Vision & Goals – a workshop for the Houston fitness community at a beautiful yoga studio, with support from national brands like sweetgreen, SoulCycle, and Barry’s. Just like that, our idea became a reality. 

Do you have any ideas that you want to make a reality but are a little lost on where to start? Perhaps you’re wondering, “But how exactly does this happen – just like that?” Grab a notebook and let’s break it down.

Note: I’m fresh off of listening to Gabby Bernstein’s Super Attractor on Audible – a highly-recommended book about manifesting and attracting the life you want. It really spoke to me. I actually started writing this post in December and never finished it. Being a firm believer in timing, I know that this post was meant to include some of Gabby’s wisdom from her book, so if any of this speaks to you, definitely pick up Super Attractor to expand on all of these thoughts.

How To Turn An Idea Into A Reality

Step 1: Allow yourself to believe in the idea. (Even if you feel like you have no idea what you’re doing.) If you have an idea in mind, write it down. Now look at that idea on paper – do you actually believe you are able to do it? (Note: I didn’t ask you anything in regards to how you are going to do it.) Do you believe you can do it? If so, write down: I believe I can [write in your idea.]

Brutal truth: Sometimes you won’t believe you can do it. Your mind will trick you into thinking you can’t do something, when really, your mind just can’t fully envision how you are going to do it. There is a huge difference between the two – don’t let your mind fool you. It’s okay to not know all of the answers – actually, that is a very good thing! It means your idea is BIG and is going to get you out of your comfort zone. Accept that you don’t know all of the answers, but trust yourself enough to allow the idea to stay in the forefront of your mind.

Final thought: Whatever “it” is, it typically works better if you actually think you can do it.

Step 2: Keep thinking about your idea. All of the time. By thinking about your idea constantly, the Law of Attraction will pull people into your life who can help you, inspire you, and guide you – even if neither of you know it. Surround yourself with these people – even just by surrounding yourself with like-minded people who believe in you will begin to change the way you see things. You’ll find yourself in conversation and “randomly” coming up with small solutions and ways to progress your idea, even if you weren’t even talking directly about it. This is actually not so random. This is a mindset change. With this mindset change will come more answers on how to make your idea come to life.

Brutal Truth: This means that some people in your life gotta go. Maybe temporarily. Maybe forever. But the people who aren’t cheering you on will not help your idea turn into a reality. The people who are sucking the life out of you gotta go. The people who are small-minded and drama seekers gotta go. This might be hard for you – I know it was hard for me. When I began to focus on growing my dreams, I started to realize I was exerting a lot of energy on toxic relationships. I lost a lot of relationships (some expected and some not) when I started to shift my mindset and habits towards the bigger picture of what I wanted.

If you find yourself in a place where you can’t fully cut the person out (ex: your boss, a friend in your close-knit circle), you can begin to limit your interaction with them (in a polite manner.) Step away from conversations and activities that you know aren’t going to move you forward. Try to limit your emotional responses to small-minded triggers and tell yourself it’s temporary. Use that energy to shift your thoughts – that energy is powerful, and can actually fuel your mind to think more about your idea, especially if the idea will allow you to leave that toxic place or person behind.

Final Thought: Grab your notebook. Are there any people you might need to give a little space? Write them down. Begin there. In addition, write down the names of people who you believe are like-minded and have your best interest at heart. If you can’t think of anyone, don’t worry! Again, just trust that they are on their way. Write down places you think you might find them or qualities in people that will help guide you – gravitate towards them.

Step 3: Embrace faith, not fear. You have to trust yourself. You have to allow yourself to be an amateur (“I don’t know WTF am I doing” thoughts are completely normal – trust.), give yourself grace when things don’t go as planned, and evolve your idea as you evolve yourself. I recently met a fellow entrepreneur who offered solid advice, when I didn’t even ask for it. (You’ll find this will happen time and time again if you surround yourself with like-minded forward thinkers.) He said, “Don’t fall in love with the product, fall in love with the process.” This mindset will help you to embrace changes as they come and will open you up to allow your idea to be even bigger than you initially imagined.

Brutal Truth: Sometimes you are going to feel stuck. You’ll feel as though you are in a forever waiting period where nothing is happening. You won’t see how you will overcome a problem and you will begin to talk yourself out of what you really want. (Again, this is why a close network of support is so important!) Do not let fearing the unknown take over. Instead of thinking, “I don’t know how I will figure this out,” shift your thoughts into a positive mindset of faith and trust in the process. “Wow, this idea is going to be bigger than I imagined, and I trust that the right people and right situations will help guide me to an even bigger version of my idea!”

My parter, Chichi, and at our event in January, likely laughing because we never saw this coming!

Our start-up company I mentioned before? That actually started as an idea for one event to bring fitness professionals together for one workout to network. One workout! That was it. We started surrounding ourselves with like-minded people who kept urging us to do more. Our idea has changed and re-structured so many times, and there were many times we could have felt stuck viewing our set-backs as failures. Instead, we continued to seek new opportunities and see our idea as evolving – and you know what? It continues to grow into something bigger and bigger.

Final Thought: You will always find what you search for. If you look for a way to talk yourself out of an idea, you will find that answer. If you look for people who will keep you small and safe, you will find them. But imagine this: If you search for people to help you figure it out, you will find them. If you search for solutions to your problems, you will find them. If you search for a way to make your dream come alive, you will find it.

Are you looking for the right things?

Below are some thoughts from people who inspire me on How To Turn An Idea Into A Reality:

“The most important step when turning an idea into a reality is actually taking steps each day. They don’t have to be huge steps, but all steps count. It can be really scary, but ask friends (especially entrepreneur friends) where to start.” Megan Eddings, Founder + CEO, Accel Lifestyle

“Vision- Trust your instincts; Consistency- take feedback but don’t compromise; Advocacy- Enlist experts to become advocates.” Bruce Franklin, Director of TOM FORD BEAUTY Education North America

“The moment you make any effort to express your ideas, you begin to make it a reality. Thoughts are spoken, words attract action, action creates tangible results.” Jaz Porter, Yoga Instructor + Entrepreneur, Co-Creator of Yoga Evolution TV

“Write it down on paper and look at it everyday until it happens.” Karen Maxwell, Senior Master Instructor, CYCLEBAR + Creator, Kinisi Performance CBD

“Take that idea and really break down what it means. Poke holes in it and flush it out!” Alicia Tillman, Yoga Instructor + Entrepreneur, Awkward Yoga Girl

More Than Just A Birthday Candle

This Friday, I’ll be 33. If you’re like me, birthdays always bring a moment of reflection. I look back on tough decisions, life lessons, what I’ve gained and lost over the last year, and so on – and each time proves another hard learning year was had. This year was different. While I still learned so much, I finally seemed to learn lessons “not the hard way,” if that makes sense. I found myself ahead of things, rather than behind them. I felt alive, rather than forcing things into place. It was a year where I wasn’t coasting – and where I found consciousness.

Last December, I stumbled upon a wonderful human in the most serendipitous way. Unexpectedly becoming my yoga instructor, Jaz ended up becoming my very dear friend as well. As someone who still struggles to touch their toes, I’ve been very aware of how much my body needs to stretch. It wasn’t until this year, however, that I realized how inflexible my mind was.

Jaz and her business partner, Alicia, produce Yoga Evolution TV – a conscious live talk show followed by a yoga flow. I attend monthly to listen to fascinating people talk about different topics, such as meditation, astrology, and self-love. At one particular airing, John Tran (yogi and creator of YOUniverSOUL Fest) enlightened us on the power of manifesting. He explained how important it is for us to share our dreams with others – and how we can actually manifest our dreams into existence.

What is manifesting? Jaz explains it as “tapping into our ability to attract vibrational matches for what we desire or envision.” I like to call it “bringing the dreams from inside our souls out into the physical universe.” How do we do this? By writing our dreams down. By saying them out loud and sharing them with others. By truly believing they will happen. If that seems a little “out there” to you, check this out:

John told us a story about his birthday some years ago spent with family and friends. It was time to blow out the candles on his birthday cake and he had a thought: Why is it that we don’t tell anyone what our birthday wish is? After all, we only get one birthday wish a year – why do we choose to keep it to ourselves? Doesn’t it make much more sense to say it out loud so the people around us (and the universe) can hear it? So on that particular birthday, he chose to say his wish out loud to his family and friends and asked them to share one of their wishes in return.

I was intrigued. Earlier in the year, I started to write down my goals and dreams for the first time ever in my life. I found it strange at first – the things I wrote down actually started to happen! I thought back to this as John was sharing the story of his birthday. I thought to myself – if this has already happened on a small scale, and I didn’t really even know what I was doing, what could happen if I really started manifesting my dreams? If I truly believed in them so much that I could firmly declare to others what I wanted and what I saw for myself in the future? I didn’t know what would happen, but I was down to find out.

I started to declare what I envisioned for myself – I shared it with friends, family, clients, and just about anyone who would listen! The more I said it out loud, the more I would believe in it, and the more things would happen – why I had never said my dreams out loud before?

I took some time to figure out the answer, but it came down to this: Insecurity. Insecure that what I wanted wouldn’t come true. Insecure that people would laugh at me. Insecure that I wasn’t good enough. Insecure because I didn’t know how to actually get what I wanted.

Why was I so concerned about what other people would think of my dreams? After all, they belonged to me! And I had no idea what the future version of myself would look like – what battles I would overcome, what struggles would make me stronger, what people I would meet to lift me up – why was I so worried about the future version of me? Did I not trust myself?

These thoughts made me keep my dreams inside – where doubt, overthinking, and anxiety would eat them alive if left there. I had chosen not to share them (even to myself!) based on an imaginary feeling that my future self might potentially have.

I felt kind of silly once I broke it down to be that simple.

My mind was absolutely blown at how much doubt I had in myself and how it was revealed. That day I made a vow – no more doubt. No more fearing what other people would say. I would tell my dreams to anyone and everyone, and in the depths of my soul, I would believe them to be true. I would manifest them into a reality.

While having dinner last night in Austin, the table next to me was celebrating a birthday. The room filled with life as the group lit the birthday candles and sang to their friend. When he blew the candles out, his friends asked him to tell them his wish. He laughed and refused to tell them. I found myself exclaiming across the room, “No, tell them!” The table looked over and I laughed. “Tell them,” I said again. “Manifest your dream.” This started a fun conversation between strangers. One of their friends yelled out, “The Power of the Spoken Word!” Yes! There is power in speaking your dreams out loud. There is power in truly believing that you can do something. (P.S. Shout out to anyone from Salty Sow last night reading this after I shamelessly plugged this post.)

This Friday, I’ll be 33. I’m going to spend the evening with friends, and I definitely plan on eating some cake – but before I do, I’m going to make a wish and share it with everyone there. They don’t know it yet, but I am going to ask everyone to share one of their own dreams as well. That’s what I want for my birthday! I want all of my friends to realize that they have the power to get everything they want – and that they really believe that power lies inside of them.

What dream have you been keeping inside, unable to tell anyone?

What thoughts cross your mind that talk you out of your dreams?

Can you commit to telling one person your dream? If so, who will you tell?

If that is too much for you, will you commit to telling yourself your dream out loud or writing it down? You’ve got this!

“With one mouth, you can sing so many songs. With four strings, you can play four hundred tunes. So also, one mind can give rise to so many thoughts. Your destiny is based on your character. Character is based on actions. Actions are based on thoughts. Therefore, cultivate morality and sacred thoughts. None can escape the law of action, which is based on the nature of the mind.” (A quote sent to me by my friend Vinod, appropriately timed for today’s post!)