How To Turn An Idea Into A Reality

I was leaving my Lagree studio and heading to meet my business partner, Chichi, for our normal weekly Monday meeting dedicated to our start-up company, which provides networking and consulting services to fitness professionals. 

Instead of jumping into “meeting mode”, we decided to get pho for lunch. So I picked her up and off we went. Perhaps it was the mindset we were finally in – perhaps it was the synergistic energy that had been building. Or maybe, it was just knowing that a bowl full of carbs were on the way. But she hopped into my car and our ideas just began to soar.

2020 Vision & Goals in January

“You know what would be really cool? If we did a Vision & Goals Workshop for a big group of people.” That’s how it started. I can’t remember the exact flow, but it went something like this:

“We can pair it with a yoga flow.” “Ooh, we should do it around the beginning of the year so it can be a great start to 2020 for everyone.” “We should offer this to fitness junkies too!”

What started as an idea on the drive randomly to get pho for lunch on a Monday ended up turning into our next huge event two months later – 2020 Vision & Goals – a workshop for the Houston fitness community at a beautiful yoga studio, with support from national brands like sweetgreen, SoulCycle, and Barry’s. Just like that, our idea became a reality. 

Do you have any ideas that you want to make a reality but are a little lost on where to start? Perhaps you’re wondering, “But how exactly does this happen – just like that?” Grab a notebook and let’s break it down.

Note: I’m fresh off of listening to Gabby Bernstein’s Super Attractor on Audible – a highly-recommended book about manifesting and attracting the life you want. It really spoke to me. I actually started writing this post in December and never finished it. Being a firm believer in timing, I know that this post was meant to include some of Gabby’s wisdom from her book, so if any of this speaks to you, definitely pick up Super Attractor to expand on all of these thoughts.

How To Turn An Idea Into A Reality

Step 1: Allow yourself to believe in the idea. (Even if you feel like you have no idea what you’re doing.) If you have an idea in mind, write it down. Now look at that idea on paper – do you actually believe you are able to do it? (Note: I didn’t ask you anything in regards to how you are going to do it.) Do you believe you can do it? If so, write down: I believe I can [write in your idea.]

Brutal truth: Sometimes you won’t believe you can do it. Your mind will trick you into thinking you can’t do something, when really, your mind just can’t fully envision how you are going to do it. There is a huge difference between the two – don’t let your mind fool you. It’s okay to not know all of the answers – actually, that is a very good thing! It means your idea is BIG and is going to get you out of your comfort zone. Accept that you don’t know all of the answers, but trust yourself enough to allow the idea to stay in the forefront of your mind.

Final thought: Whatever “it” is, it typically works better if you actually think you can do it.

Step 2: Keep thinking about your idea. All of the time. By thinking about your idea constantly, the Law of Attraction will pull people into your life who can help you, inspire you, and guide you – even if neither of you know it. Surround yourself with these people – even just by surrounding yourself with like-minded people who believe in you will begin to change the way you see things. You’ll find yourself in conversation and “randomly” coming up with small solutions and ways to progress your idea, even if you weren’t even talking directly about it. This is actually not so random. This is a mindset change. With this mindset change will come more answers on how to make your idea come to life.

Brutal Truth: This means that some people in your life gotta go. Maybe temporarily. Maybe forever. But the people who aren’t cheering you on will not help your idea turn into a reality. The people who are sucking the life out of you gotta go. The people who are small-minded and drama seekers gotta go. This might be hard for you – I know it was hard for me. When I began to focus on growing my dreams, I started to realize I was exerting a lot of energy on toxic relationships. I lost a lot of relationships (some expected and some not) when I started to shift my mindset and habits towards the bigger picture of what I wanted.

If you find yourself in a place where you can’t fully cut the person out (ex: your boss, a friend in your close-knit circle), you can begin to limit your interaction with them (in a polite manner.) Step away from conversations and activities that you know aren’t going to move you forward. Try to limit your emotional responses to small-minded triggers and tell yourself it’s temporary. Use that energy to shift your thoughts – that energy is powerful, and can actually fuel your mind to think more about your idea, especially if the idea will allow you to leave that toxic place or person behind.

Final Thought: Grab your notebook. Are there any people you might need to give a little space? Write them down. Begin there. In addition, write down the names of people who you believe are like-minded and have your best interest at heart. If you can’t think of anyone, don’t worry! Again, just trust that they are on their way. Write down places you think you might find them or qualities in people that will help guide you – gravitate towards them.

Step 3: Embrace faith, not fear. You have to trust yourself. You have to allow yourself to be an amateur (“I don’t know WTF am I doing” thoughts are completely normal – trust.), give yourself grace when things don’t go as planned, and evolve your idea as you evolve yourself. I recently met a fellow entrepreneur who offered solid advice, when I didn’t even ask for it. (You’ll find this will happen time and time again if you surround yourself with like-minded forward thinkers.) He said, “Don’t fall in love with the product, fall in love with the process.” This mindset will help you to embrace changes as they come and will open you up to allow your idea to be even bigger than you initially imagined.

Brutal Truth: Sometimes you are going to feel stuck. You’ll feel as though you are in a forever waiting period where nothing is happening. You won’t see how you will overcome a problem and you will begin to talk yourself out of what you really want. (Again, this is why a close network of support is so important!) Do not let fearing the unknown take over. Instead of thinking, “I don’t know how I will figure this out,” shift your thoughts into a positive mindset of faith and trust in the process. “Wow, this idea is going to be bigger than I imagined, and I trust that the right people and right situations will help guide me to an even bigger version of my idea!”

My parter, Chichi, and at our event in January, likely laughing because we never saw this coming!

Our start-up company I mentioned before? That actually started as an idea for one event to bring fitness professionals together for one workout to network. One workout! That was it. We started surrounding ourselves with like-minded people who kept urging us to do more. Our idea has changed and re-structured so many times, and there were many times we could have felt stuck viewing our set-backs as failures. Instead, we continued to seek new opportunities and see our idea as evolving – and you know what? It continues to grow into something bigger and bigger.

Final Thought: You will always find what you search for. If you look for a way to talk yourself out of an idea, you will find that answer. If you look for people who will keep you small and safe, you will find them. But imagine this: If you search for people to help you figure it out, you will find them. If you search for solutions to your problems, you will find them. If you search for a way to make your dream come alive, you will find it.

Are you looking for the right things?

Below are some thoughts from people who inspire me on How To Turn An Idea Into A Reality:

“The most important step when turning an idea into a reality is actually taking steps each day. They don’t have to be huge steps, but all steps count. It can be really scary, but ask friends (especially entrepreneur friends) where to start.” Megan Eddings, Founder + CEO, Accel Lifestyle

“Vision- Trust your instincts; Consistency- take feedback but don’t compromise; Advocacy- Enlist experts to become advocates.” Bruce Franklin, Director of TOM FORD BEAUTY Education North America

“The moment you make any effort to express your ideas, you begin to make it a reality. Thoughts are spoken, words attract action, action creates tangible results.” Jaz Porter, Yoga Instructor + Entrepreneur, Co-Creator of Yoga Evolution TV

“Write it down on paper and look at it everyday until it happens.” Karen Maxwell, Senior Master Instructor, CYCLEBAR + Creator, Kinisi Performance CBD

“Take that idea and really break down what it means. Poke holes in it and flush it out!” Alicia Tillman, Yoga Instructor + Entrepreneur, Awkward Yoga Girl

Get What You [Think] You Deserve

I had recently quit my job, made a complete 180 into the unknown territory of full-time fitness, and I was wrapping up the final stages of divorce.

I had no idea where my life was about to go. I couldn’t see the whole picture and that scared me. Could I even support myself in this new journey? I doubted myself a lot because I would see others doing what I wanted to do, and I would get intimidated by comparison. Did I actually have any idea what I was doing? Why did people trust me with this?

Even as time went on, I was filled with negative thoughts. I stayed in complacency for far too long because I didn’t know any other way. I guess I’ll date this person – they don’t have everything that I want in a partner, but I don’t see myself meeting anyone who has everything I want, so this person is good enough.  I didn’t try a lot of things because I didn’t think I was good enough. I have to make this job work out! It’s no longer a good fit, but I don’t know who else would want me.

In late 2018, as a result of surrounding myself with people who lifted me up, I unknowingly made a small change that would have a big impact. I started asking myself questions. “Why do you think you can’t get that?” “Well, why do you think that?” I realized I didn’t really have a “why” that was valid – my reasons were fueled from doubt and fear and erroneous ideas that I would tell myself. That changed right then and there – from that point on, I would believe that I deserved my dreams. Want to guess what happened?

Do any of my thoughts sound familiar to you? Do you tell yourself “reasons” why you don’t deserve to get something you want? If you’re like I was, perhaps you don’t even know you are actively giving life to reasons that simply don’t exist. These thoughts trick us – they may seem really little, but in fact, they take a huge toll on us emotionally and mentally. These thoughts are called “stories.” Stories may look something like this:

“They don’t like me.”

“I’m not good enough.” (Or “I’m not [x] enough.”)

“I don’t belong here.”

“I’m not capable of achieving this.”

“Everyone else is so much better than I am.”

“I’m really comfortable where I am.”

“I’m too far gone.”

I’ve caught myself many times in the past making up an entire scenario in my head that didn’t even remotely exist because I was telling myself these little stories over and over. Be very aware of your thoughts. How often do any of these thoughts (or ones like it) cross your mind each day? 

Once you identify the stories you tell yourself, the next step is to identify the triggers that curate these stories. Triggers can look like:

Being in an uncomfortable place with new people.

Working on something that you’re not very good at yet.

Trying something new.

Feeling really far away from success.

Seeing others do something you want to do and comparing yourself.

Being unsure how something is going to pan out.

Sometimes, even just being aware of your triggers can bring you out of these stories your mind makes up. Identify the story you are telling yourself and then pause for a moment to think about what might be triggering it.

Let’s back it up: Imagine a scenario. You meet up with your best friend who is going through a rough patch of unhappiness but doesn’t know what to do. They tell you about a potential solution, but they are nervous to attempt it. What would you tell that friend? More importantly, what would you not tell that friend?

You wouldn’t tell your best friend they aren’t good enough.

You wouldn’t tell them that nobody likes them.

Or that they’re not cut out for this.

Or that they don’t belong.

That they don’t deserve it.

Now, let me ask you this – if you wouldn’t tell those things to your best friend…why are you telling them to yourself? 

We have to love ourselves, y’all! We have to give ourselves some grace and accept (and embrace!) our human-ness. We don’t have all of the answers. And we aren’t the best at everything. But that doesn’t mean that we don’t deserve to get what we want.

You are good enough.

You are capable of this.

You do deserve this.

But you have to believe it. You are not going to get what you deserve. You are going to get what you think you deserve. Once you change your mindset to believe that you deserve your dreams, only then will you begin to see change. Trust me.

What stories do you tell yourself in your mind?

What are some things that trigger you into thinking this way? (When do you find yourself thinking these thoughts?)

What is one thing (or more!) that you truly think you deserve?

What can you do to repeatedly tell yourself this? (Write it on a post-it on the mirror, daily affirmations, etc.)

What are some small steps you are willing to do right now to get closer to what you think you deserve?

Read that last question again – this new mindset comes with responsibility – action must ensue! Once you start believing in yourself and your dreams, you will be put to work. You will be tested.

“We are tested before our manifestations come through to see if we will continue to settle where we’ve settled in the past.”

This is not meant to scare you – it’s meant to ignite you! You’ll see the same exact things that tried to knock you down in the past try to knock you down again – but this time, they won’t get you. You’ll be stronger. Firm in your mindset that you truly believe you will get what you think you deserve.